Your Children's Self Esteem

The old maxim says that action speaks louder than words. And how true and timeless this is. Your child's self-esteem is dependent on your self-esteem manifested through your actions. Children imitate and emulate their parents during the founding years of their lives. This makes up about 80% of their core character and personality. But even when children move on to their teen years and then to their full grown adult years, they'll still need you to have a healthy self esteem more than they realize. The reason is because, you have always been a part of their identity since they were young impressionable tots.

There will be seasons if life when your self esteem will take a dip. Lost of job, post-pregnancy syndrome, divorce and undefined moods swings are among some of the causes that can lead to low self esteem. It is important to keep your family close to you, be open to them about your struggles and reassure them that they're still on your team and that together, you'll get out of this rut.

You can show that you're only human; and in fact you should. But don't reveal to your children that you're defeated. That would be devastating to them. You've got your spouse or best friends to rely on for that. So be strong and take courage. Exemplify the life of a conqueror. Find it in your heart, the desire to show your children that mommy or daddy can come up from under the dirt. Better still, demonstrate your dependence on God for His comfort and strength.

And then there is the issue of personality. Some of us are more on the shy side, but it is important that we manifest a confident posture when we are talking to our friends or acquaintance, especially when they have strong domineering characters.